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12th September 2009, 10:19 PM
I don't know what to think or do right now at all. I'm scared and overwhelmed and really need to stop crying so I can think.
I just got off the phone with my mom a few minutes ago. They've found out about the pot. I have a lot of stuff going on with my sister right now I need to figure out. And that's important, but not the point of the post.
They want to give Domino back. They've been talking to his owner and everything. I instantly turned pathetic when she told me and begged her to at least give me a chance to find a way to get him to school with me. She said she had mentioned the possibility to his owner, but my mom didn't sound convinced.
But I don't think I have a lot of time from the sound of things. I think I have a few weeks to find somewhere to board, a vet and farrier, somewhere to buy hay and grain... not to mention someone to haul him up here. And I'm doing it all on my own and it's just really scary.
The only silver lining? If he does end up getting up here sooner... well, he'll be up here and I can snuggle with him. But I feel like I'm working against the odds a lot right now. I have no clue where to start. And I really don't want to lose my second horse :(
12th September 2009, 10:28 PM
poor you I think you first need to write a list of all the stuff that needs to get done then get some quotes of the costs involved in the move. And prove you can do it on your own, Get everything in place and hey bingo....GO FOR IT. Can you manage him on your own
Fingers crossed it all works out. I am sorry your sister mucked things up for you and Domino
12th September 2009, 11:19 PM
oh no your are so poor!
I would be crying too
12th September 2009, 11:39 PM
Thanks guys. I've calmed down enough to write to the people I worked for this summer (he's from the area and mentioned his best friend has a small place with two horses and room for a third). Just clearing my head for now.
My mom did also say she didn't want to get rid of him because it was something constructive for my sister to do... so that may be good, too. Although with how she's been lately, I'm not completely convinced I trust her to be taking care of him the way he needs :(
12th September 2009, 11:56 PM
aww poor you i hope everything works out. *fingers crossed* that everything turns out ok x x
13th September 2009, 10:22 AM
I'm really sorry to hear that too. Good luck with everything x
13th September 2009, 10:35 AM
HOw awful, I hope you manage to get everything sorted
13th September 2009, 12:09 PM
Poor thing. Just take a deep breath and work through things methodically. It's overwhelming as one big pile of stuff to arrange but more than manageable when broken down into smaller chunks.
13th September 2009, 01:30 PM
Oh no! I was so gutted to read this. I hope it all works out, he such a fantastic horse and you've done wonders with him. I really will be thinking of you and hoping with everything crossed that it all works out for you. Big hugs!!
14th September 2009, 02:27 AM
Don't quite know what's happened but DESPERATELY want you to keep Domino!!!!
There is always a way, somehow. It is not so hard taking a horse to uni, I did it and was surprised.
14th September 2009, 12:42 PM
I am a bit confused as it what is going on! pot? must have missed something! anyway best wishes I hope you get to keep your boy!
14th September 2009, 02:08 PM
Basically my sister smokes a lot (like a lot a lot), my parents found it, there's a lot going on with her, and they don't know what to do entirely.
I will be speaking to my instructor tomorrow about the spare stall in her barn and how much it would cost to keep him there if I'm working off the board. My other issue is I can't really do full care the way they define it in the States (barn owner buys feed for your horse and sets up vet and farrier) because Domino's care is so so so specialized, I really don't trust anyone else with it.
Thanks so much, everyone.
Smoke on the Water
14th September 2009, 02:11 PM
Got everything crossed for you. It must be heartbreaking right now but I really really hope you are getting somewhere with it. Keep us posted.
14th September 2009, 02:14 PM
Sorry your sister has messed things up for you & Domino, hope you get things worked out xx
15th September 2009, 08:55 AM
Hiya, So sorry to read this...
Just wanted to add to the helpful suggestion of getting things on a list, allso add them in priority which at the moment is housing and transport. The vet and farrier etc could wit untill you have allready moved as well as a lot of other things.
As for transport, if you cant get a friend or someone you know to do so, i know that over here, there are plenty of transport companies that do regular routes that you can be added onto. They often do racehorses so look for racehorse movers maybe?
List you priorities and split the list into what needs to be done before and after the move. I really wish you good luck in this!
15th September 2009, 02:02 PM
So sorry to hear this :( I really hope you can get it all worked out, I know it would be heartbreaking for you to lose Domino. I'd bet that taking him away will not help Mollie cope with whatever it is she's going through but I understand what you mean when you say you don't really trust him with her.
Sending hugs and positive vibes :)
15th September 2009, 02:31 PM
Thanks guys. I was thinking of looking at some transport companies, hopefully that will work out (and not be massively expensive, although I'll pay if it is). Talking to the instructor about the spare stall today; talking to my friend in Wisconsin about his friend's place this afternoon. So I have stuff to scope out.
Tanner - I agree with you, and I think my parents do, too. The way they put it... "It's something constructive for her to do." The issue is more of a is she using the pony as an opportunity to smoke more/do stuff she's not supposed to be doing? And I also... I know a lot of people don't think it's a big deal, but I really HATE that she drives stoned to see him. The DC area roads and drivers are scary enough when you're entirely sober. As I said, they're not convinced yet... but I feel like if they do decide he should go, they're not going to give me a ton of notice, so I want everything ready up here just in case.
15th September 2009, 04:41 PM
I really hope you can get things sorted in time x
16th September 2009, 12:25 AM
Oh no. :-(
I so hope that you can work this out, and so sorry to hear that your sister isn't in a good place. Hang in there Grace. xxx
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